A Farewell to Fawning: Understanding and Healing your Nervous System

Dear Reader,

I’m writing this letter because I wish someone had written it to me. But perhaps, at the time earlier in my life, I wouldn’t have been able to receive it. We can’t always see or grasp something until we’re ready. So, I trust that those who need this will find it when the time is right. Here it is:

In life, you may have been labeled as the “problem” when you spoke up or said “no.” Others, even those closest to you, may get angry or try to punish you for setting boundaries, or not going along with their version of things, and even paint you negatively to others.

As you begin healing your fawn response, setting boundaries, and saying, “No, that doesn’t work for me,” you will likely face backlash, especially if your relationships operated in the arena of dysfunction. Learning a new skill or behavior can be awkward, and at first, might come off as aggressive or overzealous — especially if you’ve spent a lifetime people-pleasing. Transitioning into these new ways of being is often challenging, so please be kind and generous with yourself and others.

Repeat after me: I will be easy and generous with myself and others!

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